How to survive isolation with your partner together at home
The Australian prime minister has asked people to stay home in new coronavirus rules. In addition to the strict new social gathering and social distancing rules, people in Australia have been given a clear message from Prime Minister to stay at home. He said people should stay at home and self-isolate regardless of what their symptoms or situations are; for their own protection.
What if it’s just me and my partner?
There are some basic things that a couple can do which will help minimise the impacts of the strongly advised isolation.
Couples may find it difficult to cope with spending extended periods at home together. It is important to maintain good relations with your partner as you may be spending a lot more time at home.
How important is Physical exercise & Mental Health?
Because you are at home more, you may be more seated, lying or in active. You may not be catching public transport as often. You may not be getting the incidental exercise you get when you’re at work.
Even if you were not working before the coronavirus outbreak, you are still advised not to go out and about doing the usual activities. It is important to replace your usual activities with physical exercise.
Keeping active is important for physical health, it helps your mental health too. Exercise such as gardening and dancing reduce anxiety and depression. It can also just provide a distraction from COVID-19, and keep some social interaction alive without leaving the house. It is better to do anything your mind comes up with, instead of being inactive. It is important to look after your body, mind and brain.
There are a lot of information and decision to make and your brains are forced to work harder. It is important to do things to relax your brains as well.
It is important to do something – read a book, do crosswords, whatever your other activities are that stimulate your brain in different ways. It is better to find activities that works for both you and your partner.
If you or your partner has medical issues that may get worse after physical exercise, check with your doctor to find out what exercises are right for you both.
What is effective communication?
Don’t make assumptions about how your partner feels. The coronavirus is new for your relationship too. You may have dealt with other testing times before this one but this is a new experience. Do not assume your partner will feel the same way about everything you are going through. Your partner may not be experiencing the same emotions or thoughts that you are.
Assumptions can breed resentments as they lay down false expectations. The solution to assumptions is to have clear and open communication and to avoid mind reading. Neither of you has experienced this before so you will both cope with this differently and that is okay.
Decide on a signal that means ‘OK, we need to take a moment in separate rooms’ and learn better communication skills. Recognise when your partner needs a hug or needs to talk about emotions that are coming up.
Both partners should get comfortable asking for – and giving each other – space. Find low-pressure fun things you can do together. This could be a great opportunity to make more love with your partner.
How can we feel less anxious about the coronavirus?
With so much going on and tensions running high, it can be hard to keep an open conversation especially if you are feeling scared or upset. Effective communication is key to keeping your relationship solid throughout. Anxiety may create strong negative emotional reactions; anger or frustration. When experiencing these emotions try and stay mindful of your responses. Try and be as clear as possible with each other. If you are frustrated or stressed then try to communicate how you are feeling.
If you are struggling with your anxiety and how you respond, the best thing you can do is communicate. Giving yourself time or telling your loved ones you are struggling and that you may react unexpectedly. Be compassionate, considerate, gentle, kind, sympathetic and thoughtful. This will helps ease the possibility of reacting in a way that you might regret and add to stress. Avoid falling into the blame game when you are stressed this won’t help anyone.
Are these circumstances going to be testing?
It is important to accept that these circumstances are going to be testing.
Give yourselves some period of grace – this is an unusual time for everyone. How you deal with these circumstances is what counts.
You may want to know as much as possible about the situation whereas your partner may prefer to take each day as it comes. Remember that there are many different ways of coping in stressful situations and your way isn’t the only way.
Should a couple try to put big arguments on hold?
Do not use the coronavirus situation as a chance to vent all of your ongoing relationship issues. Those big and difficult conversations may need to be put on hold while you deal with the current coronavirus situation.
If you have elderly parents or other family members with health problems and you may have particular worries them. Try to understand if your partner needs to prioritise these people at the moment.
How long should I be working from home?
Managing to Work from home may be a struggle in your relationship. Try to establish ‘home life’ and ‘work life’ at home. Separate the two can have a big positive impact on your relationship.
If you are working at home, there will still be home and life admin to do – set a time for this.
If you are working from home try to establish a routine. Don’t work all day in your pyjamas. Make sure you build in breaks – tea, coffee, meals. If you have a balcony, a yard or a garden go outside for an oxygen break. Don’t work all hours. Find shared interests or activities to do together so that you have something to share that isn’t just housework. You can find video series to watch together.
How important is good nutrition?
Good nutrition is an important part of leading a healthy lifestyle. Combined with physical activity, your diet can help you to reach and maintain a healthy weight, reduce your risk of chronic diseases (like heart disease and cancer), and promote your overall health.
How important is personal hygiene in a relationship?
Having a good standard of cleanliness is a must for maintaining general health and your relationship. Personal hygiene prevents the spread of the virus, stops body odour developing and makes you more approachable to your partner.
How can clean and Tidy home benefit my relationship?
The key to a happier relationship could be a tidy home.
It is important to avoid disagreements with your partner about housework. Sharing household chores is very important to any relationship. A disorganised home can take a toll on a couple’s relationship. Laundry, dishes and clutter quickly pile up in homes when a couple is frustrated and overwhelmed by the disorganisation.
It is important to sort through your belongings based on category and only keep items that promote joy and happiness and getting rid of the rest. A clean home promotes a much calmer home. It is important to be kinder and more patient with one another.
The clutter can really mess with you and your relationship. The gradual effect of a cluttered living space can actually be bad to your mental and physical health, making you feel stressed, overwhelmed, anxious and guilty. That stress and anxiety can affect the way you treat your partner, making you less patient and understanding and more prone to snippiness, nit-picking and passive-aggressive behaviour. A messy home can make us feel overwhelmed, helpless and anxious. Frustration arises when an item cannot be located and tensions build within between the partners.
A decluttered home space clears the way, both mentally and physically, for the couple to spend more quality time together. It is important to free up more space and time to just enjoy each other and during the current situation.
How does drugs and alcohol affect relationships?
When a partner or a couple struggles with drug addiction alcoholism, they can neglect what is required to maintain a healthy relationship. Drug addiction and alcoholism can destroy a relationship. When the drug or alcohol abuser starts to focus on getting high or drunk and maintaining the drug habit, this will result in neglect to nurture the relationship.
Money that was supposed to be used for living essentials may become at risk of being used for drugs and alcohol. The person abusing drugs or alcohol can start developing anger problems which can lead to aggression and violence, which victimises the loved one. If you or your partner is struggling with an addiction you can find help by contacting the Australian Government Health Department.
How does money impact relationships?
Many would claim that money can’t buy love. However, research has shown that money can make or break a relationship as it affects the decisions a couple make. Money can hold power hold on relationships.
How to Handle Financial Stress in your Relationship
- Educate Yourself about managing money properly
- Talk about how you should spend money a couple, this can improve the quality of relationships
- Look At Your Shared Expenses
- Continue or start Saving
- Focus on an emergency savings first
It is important to keep in mind that the uncertainty can be is a big issue in a relationship. Not knowing how long this corona pandemic will last for can cause a lot of the anxiety at the moment during COVID-19 isolation.
Coronavirus lockdown has caused hundreds of thousands of Australian to become jobless. Hundreds of thousands of people have lost their jobs in Australia due to a downturn in consumer spending following the lockdown caused by Coronavirus pandemic.
The impact is immense and job losses are widespread across Australia.
Australia is experiencing widespread ongoing transmission of respiratory illness caused by the novel (new) coronavirus (COVID-19).
To find out more about the status of COVID-19 in Australia and how to protect yourself contact the Australian Government Department of Health
For more information and updates contact the health authorities in your current country